I have a hard time dealing with change. I don’t like being forced out of my comfort zone. I grew up sheltered and overprotected, homeschooled for a year, and fundamentally different from most kids in my neighborhood. They were mean, spiteful, and rude. That stuff didn’t fly with me. I stayed away from most kids during these years; I just didn’t bother with them. This initial disgust with the average behavior of my peers was my main motive for being as nice and courteous as I could possibly be. It takes almost no effort at all to be a nice person, and it goes such a long way, so just do it. No questions asked. That’s the way I see it. I got into television, music, and video games, in that order. NOT sports. I tried little league and basketball, cracked under pressure, hated competition, was too fat, cried, and quit. I took one guitar lesson and gave up. I went to archery for about half a year. To be honest, that was actually pretty badass and fun. I have nothing but fond memories of that. I guess I was just lazy, because I quit that too. This lack of ambition has unfortunately followed me into my adult life.
I didn’t make lasting friends until much later in life, around the beginning of high school. Being in the presence of people I could identify with, mostly the juniors and seniors in my school, really helped shape me as a person. I didn’t feel threatened around this group of people; I felt like I was respected, trusted, and treated like an adult around these guys. I didn’t feel like I had to be someone who I wasn’t, which is the greatest thing in the world. We’re social creatures, but we are freaks, too. We’re all in denial of this, for some odd reason. People have odd impulses, people do stupid stuff, and it’s hilarious and fun to embrace this. We did this consistently. This is probably why I’m still friends with most of these people to this day. We’re different people than we were in high school, that’s for sure, but we still see each other every weekend and have a blast. Spending time with close friends is almost therapeutic to me. I think of my inner circle as an extended family. We fight, laugh, and cry, but we are always there for each other. It sounds terribly cliche, but I’ve found people that I’d be comfortable spending the rest of my life with. I know it’s not healthy be done with meeting people, but all I’m saying is that if I didn’t make a single new friend for the rest of my life, I’d still consider myself lucky. That’s how great these guys are.
Music is a huge part of my life. I play drums and guitar, and a lot of my friends do as well. We’ve got some instruments set up in my basement, and I have awesome parents who don’t mind, and even encourage us playing as much as we like. I’m a lucky guy, I recognize this. I hate unappreciative people. I realize every time that I complain about something, things could be SO much worse. This self-awareness is really important to me.
You have to aware of what you are, but it’s even more important to be aware of what you aren’t. I don’t like playing games, I don’t like coming off insincerely. My friends have given me the confidence to be who I am and not be afraid of being judged. The notion of wanting to be liked by people who don’t like you, and I mean YOU, who you really are, is ridiculous. It’s a waste of time. I used to do it, but now I just don’t care. My friends are my safety net. I don’t abuse this, I’m still nice. I don’t bite! I’m usually just too tired to actively seek discussion with new people.
This thing kinda went all over the place, but I like it. I think frantically and in an unorganized manner, that’s just my nature. To be honest, I think I’m a bit of a mess. I need focus and direction in my life. I guess that’s why I’m in college. The first semester is pretty much a test to see if I can handle this amount of responsibility and pressure. In addition to being a full time student, I’m working my first job ever for about 20 hours a week. I’ve never been as tired in my entire life as I have this past month. It’s a crazy feeling, something I’ve never felt before, but the idea that I’m doing something productive every day keeps me going. The idea of progress is an alien idea to me as well, and I’m warming up to it. Again, I’m not good with change. Hopefully I’ll grow up soon, but not too soon. I kinda like being a kid, if I can still call myself that.