In Chapter 3, Bennis talks about knowing yourself. When reading this chapter his points almost seem obvious, but not until you discover his points yourself.
Bennis says that we are often strangers to ourselves. He goes on to say that although leaders are self directed, it is in our relationships that we learn about ourselves. This is a very interesting observation.
Does he mean that we learn who we are by differentiating ourselves from other people or by discovering ourselves with them? I remember a conversation I had with someone on the way home helped me clarify who I am. This person hasn’t realized the impact they had on me and they probably never will. Nonetheless, I now know my core values which have guided me through my short life and will continue to guide me. Differentiating myself from other people has allowed me to connect with them, eventually leading to great relationships. Almost seems like a virtuous circle.