if you divorce…?
April 28, 2012 by Eric.Kim
After reading of “Love in a fallen city” by Eileen Chang, i had to think about what divorce really means to people. In text, the newly divorced daughter became a burden to her family and ever more her family tries to make the daughter to get married to another man again, the family does not care about her feelings.. only thing they care is money. It seems a little odd to me even though i was raised up in Asian culture. This text represents the Chinese culture and their thoughts at that time of the story.
In Western culture mostly (I think), when woman gets divorced, she tries to live a new life without a husband. They’re very independent and brave!, so they don’t come back to her parents. On the other hand, it is a little different in Eastern culture i think. In most case when they get divorced, the woman comes back to her parents and live with them. Asian women are not that independent to live alone, or not as brave as Western to start a new life alone. They have a.. that feeling! that need to have a man to lead for them. what do you guys think?
Moreover, the family should not treat her as a failer in life. The divorce is definitely a big change in one’s life, but it is not an wrong thing to do. It happens sometimes. The family should try to help her to get better and to start a new life without a husband, not try to sell her off from family because of their needs.
3 Responses to “if you divorce…?”
I think you raised a good point on western & eastern’s culture with regard to divorce. I’d say it depends on the different periods and women’s social/economic role in society. During that time in China, most women didn’t have a job and their husbands were the bread-winners. Therefore, they have to rely upon men to support them and remarry was the only option to get continuous support. However, in today’s society in China, most women joined the workforce and became financially independent, and they do have more options for their lives.
I love this post! More like this please! I like how you’re jumping off from one of our readings to reflect on culture and gender and how they impact certain behaviors. You post interesting questions and don’t summarize. It’s great.
I like the videos you’re embedding; they add nice texture to your blog. But if you embed a video without any commentary, it’s disappointing. I want to hear your perspectives on the videos, too. That gives me, as your reader, more to respond to. You’re writing pretty regularly, which is good, but you might increase the number of posts to fill out the blog more toward the minimum requirement of 6 weeks of blogging with 2 posts per week. Good luck writing, Eric! PS you call your About page “About Me” but it’s actually only about the blog theme. You might change the title of that page and also add a bit more there–go into some detail, for instance, on why this theme was interesting to you, why you chose it.
Thanks for the comments! Yes, I totally agree on your comment, Leyi. As i said I was raised in Korean, Asian culture as well, and I understand the cultural background at that time in China.. I am just saying… I know it is different now from back then… I just thought that its a little different from Western and Eastern culture..