What Have You Learned From a Grandparent?

This article that i read discusses how his relationship with his grandmother transformed when he stopped using “grayspeak” (a condescending way of talking to elders that treats them like children—and began having meaningful conversations). Initially, their interactions were typical of many grandparent-grandchild relationships, with predictable exchanges during holidays and phone calls, but the connection lacked depth. As his grandmother’s hearing declined, phone conversations became challenging, and their interactions became increasingly routine and limited. Noticing this, Morgan decided to change his approach by asking her questions that required more than simple responses. He began visiting her in person despite the geographical distance and asked her thought-provoking questions about her past, like what she did with her first paycheck or what she thought about during the war. These questions opened the door to deeper stories, allowing them to connect on a more meaningful level. Morgan’s shift from “grayspeak” to genuine dialogue brought him closer to his grandmother, revealing the rich experiences and wisdom she had to share, and he lamented that he didn’t start this type of communication sooner.

I read about this article and it reminded me of my grandparents. They have play a role in my life through out my childhood. My Grandparents often told me about their knowledge, wisdom, and experience. I learned patience from my grandfather. He was a gardener. Watching him take care of his plants, preparing the soil, planting the seeds, caring for them, never expecting anything to happen right away. This process taught me that growth, in plants or life, takes time and patience. His gentle way of tending his garden was a model for how we should treat other aspects of life. It taught me that steady effort is the key, and delayed gratification is the beauty. My grandmother also brought with her a wealth of wisdom. She lived through some of life’s most difficult times. From economic hardship to friends issues, she faced each challenge with unwavering strength. “We can’t control everything that comes our way,” she said, “but we can control our reactions.” This mindset has helped me cope with setbacks and uncertainty. Reading this article made me to keep checking up on my grandparents daily because you never know how much you love someone until they are gone.