“I don’t mind making jokes, but I don’t want to look like one.”
― Marilyn Monroe
A family member sent this internet joke to me. The subject of the email read: “Just thought you could use a laugh. This is so true.” As I teach about social inequalities, I asked students last week if a personal happiness or in this case a a joke can function like a personal trouble. This is the basic premise of the sociological imagination forwarded by C. Wright Mills. The meme below says it all:
Purdue University: Natural Born CitizensThose of you who worry about Democrats versus Republicans — relax, here is our real problem.
In a Purdue University classroom, they were discussing the qualifications to be President of the United States. It was pretty simple. The candidate must be a natural born citizen of at least 35 years of age.
However, one girl in the class immediately started in on how unfair it was of the requirement to be a natural born citizen. In short, her opinion was that this requirement prevented many capable individuals from becoming president. The class was taking it in and letting her rant, and not many jaws hit the floor when she wrapped up her argument by stating, “What makes a natural born citizen any more qualified to lead this country than one born by C-section?” Yep, these are the same kinds of 18-year-olds that are now voting in our elections! They breed, and they walk among US.
Lord, we need more help than we thought we did!
How my relative got an email from a midwestern, predominately-white, university, from a land grant university in Lafayette, Indiana known for its STEM programs, from a social institution that is surely male dominated except among its secretarial staff is facsinating to me. The context or social forces behind it are not even questioned. This makes internet jokes pernicious, this one because it is circulating in the framing of our current American presidential election process.
A land-grant university is a particular social structure in education that has it’s own patriarchal bias that may be overlooked. This from the Wikipedia on “land grant univerity”:
The Morrill Acts funded educational institutions by granting federally controlled land to the states for them to sell to raise funds to establish and endow “land-grant” colleges. The mission of these institutions as set forth in the 1862 Act is to focus on the teaching of practical agriculture, science, military science and engineering (though “without excluding … classical studies”), as a response to the industrial revolution and changing social class.[1][2] This mission was in contrast to the historic practice of higher education to focus on an abstract liberal arts curriculum.
The final line evoking — a religious exclamation and invocation “Lord…” — can evoke both intergenerational disdain for the joke’s readers making it dismissive of Millennials and for religious minded and purist folks it may be dismissive of the lack of or loss of values these groups see within their own in-group. Us vs. Them is subtly instituted in our minds. Our calling attention to other people’s ignorance is always a sign of our own cognitive distortions and biases. It’s easy to call someone else stupid. Hard to accept you are the arbiter of the slippery slope of hating others.
What initially lured me in was the way the email/internet joke started. It seemed non-partisan appealing to an escape from the usual polemics of social engagement on the web these days. (How do you unfriend an email?). Bi- or multiple-partisanship (i.e., intersectionality) is missing in our social discourse around politics, racial inequalities, gender disparities, and discussions of the root causes of extreme wealth inequalities in the U.S.
Critical thinking begins with a consideration of the many possible readings of an internet meme or joke that all too easily circulates our diverse society and global internet. Critical thinking should not be partisan and should not preclude considering opposing and feminist readings of texts considered “just a joke”. What makes something funny actually turns on the symbolic meanings we cannot see on the surface with our personal, biased thinking. Jokes are sociological and turn on personal readings without short cut thoughts.
I wrote back to my relative: “If the joke turned on a male rather than a female this would be really funny.” I was dodging a bit here..afraid to just come out and say I did not find it funny at all. I continued: “The sociological under belly, here, is the incompetence of girls [or I should say “women”] in the classroom and in [our national] politics at a time when a woman happens to be running for president. [This is] the political [and sociological] work of anonymous internet jokes! But, hey, I am only a professor of sociology so my view is not the norm.” {{sigh}}. Betwixt family norms and critical thinking.
As I prepare to teach a bit about labeling theory and strain theory (cf. Robert Merton and others) today, I can see how my familial reaction and behavior was “deviant” relative to expressing my dislike of the joke. It was palpable–my amygdala was like “danger, danger, Will Robinson!!” tentacles failing and lights flashing on alert. I hesitated in writing back to my relative. Family ain’t relative it’s constant, rarely malleable, it seems.
The micro norm of talking back to an elder is some serious pressure. “Don’t do it” my cognitive bias told me without thinking. “Don’t be a trouble maker. Ignore it. Play nice. Pretend.” But that would mean not being fully conscious of my whole self, of who I am, right? Maybe. Some things, wisdom is teaching me, may be better left unsaid but I am a teacher at heart. Testing out what happened here in this blog can be useful not only to me but perhaps my students who get to see it never stops–negotiating social identities and social structures.
You must pick and choose your battles as long as you live. Meanwhile you do not pick and choose your family. You can learn to be selective and remain open to multiple readings of texts and people. THAT act may actually may impact the larger inequalities that bias access to opportunities as well as how girls and boys see themselves and how elders and teachers react in the future.
Are you training yourself and others to accept being talked about as the dumb blonde in the STEM classroom? How will you learn to STEM the tide of inequalities, inequalities that stem from internet memes we share on email or on social media without considering who might be impacted or stigmatized by it? All jokes turn on some kind of bias and all can be unpacked to consider whether we wish to keep telling such biased jokes.
If I simply flip the script to reflect the patriarchal bargains men and women make by passing such jokes if still won’t work, no matter whether you are liberal or conservative. It will simply breed animosity from the hegemonic majority, the conservatives, or other.
However, one guy in the class immediately started in on how unfair it was of the requirement to be a natural born citizen. In short, his opinion was that this requirement prevented many capable individuals from becoming president. The class was taking it in and letting him mansplain it all, and not many of his male classmates or professors jaws hit the floor but the women’s did when he wrapped up his argument by stating, “What makes a natural born citizen any more qualified to lead this country than one born by C-section?” Yep, these are the same kinds of men that we’ve voted for in our elections for centuries! They take up the seats in the House, and blame us for what sets men and women apart among US.
Lord, we need more help than we thought we did!
We do need help but all is not lost to despair and there is hope.
Sojourner Truth’s speech “Arn’t I a woman?” for some reason popped into my mind here as an nice close. It registers the power of the vulnerable groups we sociologists and anthrologists and ethnomusicologists seek to protect and bring awareness to. Not to speak for the oppressed but to show how they are quite apt at speaking for themselves–no joke!
I can’t read, but I can hear. I have heard the Bible and have learned that Eve caused man to sin. Well if woman upset the world, do give her a chance to set it right side up again. The lady has spoken about Jesus, how he never spurned woman from him, and she was right. When Lazarus died, Mary and Martha came to him with faith and love and besought him to raise their brother. And Jesus wept—and Lazarus came forth. And how came Jesus into the world? Through God who created him and woman who bore him. Man, where is your part? [Man ain’t have nothing to do with it.]
But the women are coming up blessed be God and a few of the men are coming up with them. But man is in a tight place, the poor slave is on him, woman is coming on him, and he is surely between a hawk and a buzzard.
Sources:
Elizabeth C. Stanton, S. B. Anthony, and Matilda J. Gage, History of Woman Suffrage, vol. 1 (Rochester, N. Y.: Charles Mann, 1887), p. 116; Anti-Slavery Bugle (Salem, OH) June 21, 1851.
– See more at: http://www.blackpast.org/1851-sojourner-truth-arnt-i-woman#sthash.YSCQT7W0.dpuf
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