Cao Xueqin’s “The Story of the Stone” or commonly known as “Dream of the Red Chamber,” not only vividly depicts life in Ancient China but also tells the tragic and beautiful love story of Jia Baoyu and Lin Daiyu. Similar to many of the novels we read in class regarding romance in the 19th century, Jia Baoyu and Lin Daiyu faced obstacles such as society’s or families’ disapproval of their love. Although Lin Daiyu was beautiful and intelligent, she was not deemed a compatible companion for Baoyu because of the ancient Chinese belief “Jingyu Liangyuan” translated into English as “match made in heaven.” Xue Baochai is regarded as Baoyu’s “match made in heaven” because she always wears a golden locket that goes hand in hand with Baoyu’s jade. However, Baoyu remains faithful to Daiyu and chooses to become a monk when he learns of her death. Daiyu also loved Baoyu unconditionally, and died after learning about Baoyu and Baochai’s marriage.
I was impressed at Baoyu and Daiyu’s undying love for each other because they both believed in having one love for the rest of their lives. Baoyu chooses to become a monk rather than being with someone he doesn’t love after he discovers of Daiyu’s death. Baoyu’s devotion to Daiyu, isn’t easily found in today’s society as less and less people believe in “one life, one love.” Nowadays, many people will go into marriage and quickly file for a divorce. The number of divorces are increasing, and the devotion to one love in dying as well. Although today, people might believe Baoyu was stupid for choosing his path as monk instead of moving on to the “next one,” I believed that Baoyu’s action was very noble and loyal.
Another point – There is a video that I found on the web that warns of the increasing divorce rates in society. It is actually a Chinese hair commercial but it evokes a strong message of the importance of marriage and to believe in love.
– Amy Wang