Should a relationship contain one’s own privacy?
Partners often argue due to the challenging nature of establishing boundaries that distinguish between a legitimate need for privacy and a suspicious compromising of trust. You may have checked your partner’s phone once in a while and simply have no trust in your partner. Relationship issues such as trust issues occur often, but privacy is really a problem for partners to argue everyday.
I have a friend who is in love, but all she did was cling onto her boyfriend everyday now. She seems to lose herself and is separated from the rest of her friends. No privacy was given to her boyfriend, and I began to tell her slowly, “There are basically no two stones in the world that can fuse into one piece. You can only put them together, but they can never be combined.” Should you give your partner space and trust in this love situation or just cling on your partner 24/7? We should definitely have privacy and give each other space to help maintain a healthier relationship.
Privacy keeps a freshness in a relationship
No matter how close you and your partner gets, eventually you will need personal space.This is not only because of mutual respect, but also to preserve the freshness of a relationship. Everyone knows that when guessing riddles, the other party is most interested when he can’t guess. On the contrary, if you didn’t finish the riddle yet , and the other party already guessed it. Does this give you a sense of boringness ? Without private space, many topics and interest in life will be reduced. According to Fabrega (2020) “The philosopher Arthur Schopenhauer used porcupines to explain a dilemma which often exists in human relationships. Two porcupines trying to keep warm will move closer to one another. However, if they get too close they prick each other with their spines.” This is one of the tips to keep a strong relationship, by giving each other space.
Relationships works best around privacy
Phelps (2020) psychologist suggested that “Ultimately, relationships work best when partners work collaboratively to manage their boundaries around privacy. They thrive when partners feel invested in each other feeling safe, supported, and accepted – even when they need different amounts of intimacy and privacy.” This conveys that relationships work best with privacy, even just a little bit. When both parties feel supported and invested in each other’s boundaries.
Privacy is one’s mutual respect
Privacy in a relationship helps you just be yourself and not what your other half wants you to be. Robinson (2020) suggested that “However, there are also some characteristics that most healthy relationships have in common, such as mutual respect, trust, and honesty.” Mutual respect in this case with relationships is super important, as one of the characteristics to a healthy and steady relationship. Honesty and communication is really important, but we should keep something to ourselves as having a little privacy. Honesty is what brings two people together in the first place, why would privacy be a problem then.
We can’t force our partner to share everything
Neicy(2019) highlighted that “ You can’t force someone who was raised as an only child to be more open to their mate who was raised in a family of seven, and given little to no privacy at all.” We can’t force our partner to always be open to us all the time, we could be open sometimes. However, it will eventually lead to a breakup if your partner controls you too much and not giving you space and privacy at all. Everyone is different in their own ways, having different thoughts and personality.
A good work relationship is important
Mindtools highlighted that “Human beings are naturally social creatures. And when you consider that we spend one-third of our lives at work, it’s clear that good relationships with colleagues will make our jobs more enjoyable.” A good work relationship consisted of trust like all relationship, when you trust your team members and being open and honest made team work easier. A good work relationship also consisted of privacy, where you have your own personal space, thoughts and ideas which make you comfortable not sharing those thoughts. With privacy you would be comfortable, more confident to be yourself and would have more room to play when you have a personal privacy. Teams will mutual respect is also very important aspect of team work, where we value one’s input, ideas and creativity. Good team work grows and change together to become better just like couples giving each other space and value each other’s thoughts.
Conclusion
We should have our own privacy and space when being in a relationship. If there are trust issues, there’s always a way to figure it out, as privacy brings freshness to the relationship, and since honesty is a big part of a healthy relationship, we should all give our partners some space and privacy. We should not be in full control of our partner. As I told my friend who is in this love relationship, that you love him and lose yourself completely, you give up too many friends around you and all the things that you originally feel passionate about. Giving too much into this relationship, and having no privacy/ space between the two is a harmful relationship.