The quote from Gloria Anzaldua’s essay that I chose is “Overcoming the Tradition Of Silence”. The reason I chose this quote was it sparked a memory of mine of when I was young. Similarly to Gloria tradition in her family, strict rules were set in my household/culture. In my brown family household, kids manners were held to a high standard, this means we were taught to greet guests formally when they came over, not to talk back to elderly and act as a role model for younger siblings and lastly develop into an individual that can do chores and think for themselves. These behavior skills were drilled into me through “small talks”. Whenever I did something that was not appropriate one my parents would wait until all the guests left and then tell me the thing I should work on. Some things they would say are “you don’t say cow in this way but you say it a different way, a more formal way.” However this form of approach wasn’t always used.. There were times where I was judged in front of guests. I hated that as I felt ashamed when that would happen as it put me on the spot, but that fear of not saying it wrong really affected my mentality. Now that I’m older I come to realize the main reason that my parents did that was to diminish the way I said something. The reason for diminishing the way I said something was because I have become so accustomed to saying it that way that I say it unconsciously and haven’t fixed it. But after being put in a situation where my morals are being challenged I start to change how I say it so I do not get embarrassed again. In Glorias description of her quote she also speaks about how her family and culture despised children that talk back to their parents and elders. When I was young when I would talk back to my parents or guests that came over it wasn’t really harshly reprimanded but when I got older I would receive meetings on how I should listen to what is said and to not question it and to not make up an excuse to do otherwise. For example my mother would tell me “tanvir clean up your room” and I would reply with “I will do it later” or “I don’t have time to do it now”. After my reply is initiated I am stared at, I would one day be told to attend a meeting at my living room and explain how it was bad for me to talk back. At first I didn’t really think to myself as if I was talking back, but my mother told me otherwise. She made the statement that when a elderly person tells you to do something it means you must get it done right away. To me her definition meant when  someone of power/authority tells you to do something, they are actually commanding you to do it, and when you’re commanded you have to do it as quickly as possible.