Family Romances

I was surprised with how much I agreed with Freud here in this discussion of the “Family Romances”. While some of his theories can be quite sensitive, and difficult to admit agreeing with, this one made a lot of sense to me when thinking of the developmental stage of “liberating yourself from your parents”. The main focus of this article is the on this phase of personal growth and development where an individual separates themselves from their parents, and how if it doesn’t go successfully the negative affects it can have on a child. Freud is suggesting that this is one of the most complex and important stages in ones development personally, socially, and sexually. Up until a certain point your parents are your entire existence.They are the “best people in the world”, who you may think are better than everyone and who can do no wrong. But at a certain age you start seeing other peoples parents who have different values, parenting tactics, or even adults who just treat you differently than your parents. These others may have more money, more privilege, they may be less strict, or can offer you something you aren’t receiving from your own parents. One problem with some of the statements throughout this study, is that it is coming from a point of view where both parents are involved. It seems more relevant probably for the time it was written. There are so many different upbringing situations and external factors that can occur during this stage that make your separation from your parents happen sooner or later than what is expected to be “normal”. Sometimes I have a hard time generalizing peoples personal development on a specific time line. So while I can agree with the general idea that this phase in ones life is extremely vital and will play a big role in ones healthy development, I don’t completely agree with the idea that ones “neurotic condition”can be determined solely on the failure to complete this phase “properly”.