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Monologue

The most transformative thing in my life was becoming a feminist. Sometime during my senior year of high school a friend of mine was applying for a very basic job at a retailer store. After applying and accepting the job offer, she was told that the store would be taking back their job offer because they found a more qualified person. Upset, she spoke to me about it and I asked her who she lost the job to. She proceeded to rant about how she lost the job to a guy who was much less qualified. At the time I had no understanding of everyday sexism and inequality, so her story had very little importance to me.

That same day, I was grouped with some of my male classmates for an English project. The three of them argued for about 10 minutes on which book to pick and how to split the work. I figured I would give my opinion on how to split the work and they could decide which book to read. Immediately after stating my opinion I was immediately shot down with the statement, “Alright no need to be bossy” and followed by, “Shouldn’t women be back in the kitchen?” Now, I knew what he had said was offensive but I couldn’t state in words why.

I gave it thought and looked it up online. Was this maybe just a onetime scenario or did this happen all the time? Turns out it happens all the time. Every woman has been in some way either been harassed or disadvantaged by a male, even if not all men have harassed or disadvantaged a woman. Even if it was something as miniscule as having an adult chuckle at you as a kid for wanting to join a workforce predominantly run by men, to getting catcalled in the street. Maybe somewhere there’s a group of women who have not been subjected to this.

I’m aware that simply saying you are a feminist labels you as an extremist which can tell you whether or a not a problem exists. Regardless when asked, I will most definitely firmly stand behind my belief of feminism.