Pleasure V. Reality – Our Growing Pains

After reading the excerpt from Freud’s “Beyond the Pleasure Principle,” I feel quite upset. It’s not because the reading is difficult though. The reason I feel upset is that the excerpt really deals with those emotional problems which I have but don’t know how to express. Maybe someone would ask me, “Shouldn’t you feel happy?” I would definitely say no since I may not sleep well for the next few days because I have to solve those things out.

So what are those things that make me upset? The two key words that I wrote down were “pleasure” and “reality.” More exactly, they were “Pleasure Principle” and “Reality Principle.” Pleasure principle says people tend to pursue pleasure and avoid “pain,” but reality principle postpones people’s will. Under the reality principle, people suffer pain in order to get pleasure. As I grow up, I feel like the reality principle has occupied my life. When I was a kid, I could feel pleasant so much easier. At that time, playing with friends, eating a dirt cheap ice cream or just sitting in the front of the TV would make me feel happy. However, things had changed dramatically after entering middle school. When I was in China, I had to worry about the High School Entrance Examination and had to go to school every day. I am not saying that I don’t like going to school, but if you go to school every day, it is a pain. People who live in the U.S definitely have no idea what I am talking about. I am saying that I used to go to school every day from Monday to Sunday and study from 7:00 am till 9:30 pm. It was mandatory so no one can skip the class. Remember, I was only a middle school student at that time. When I was at high school, it was almost the same thing but the only difference was that you had to stay longer there. I worked hard, I made lots of friends and I feel really happy to be accepted by the school I desired to go to, however, happiness seems no longer to be that simple. In order to get it, you have to suffer so much pain. Now I am in college, I have to worry about the getting a job already. Life is not easy, so is happiness.

We all grow up and we all suffer.

Here are two TV series that I want to share with you. The first one is “Growing Pains,” which is about how the American kids grow up. It is a little old but I really enjoy it.

The second one is “家有儿女,” which is more like a Chinese version of the “Growing Pains.” They are all very funny and you will certainly enjoy them.

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