Jamaica Kincaid’s Girl is a powerful piece that shows how society places all kinds of expectations on women, mainly through the relationship between a mother and her daughter. This piece is about a mother’s advice that comes out as a nonstop list of things the daughter needs to do. The list is all tied to traditional ideas about women. Jamaica Kincaid talks about cooking, cleaning, and dressing appropriately. Most of all, she talks about behaving in a way that keeps people from judging her. The underlying message is that the daughter needs to avoid being seen as a “bad” woman. In the story’s context, it means avoiding being labeled a “slut.” It reflects the intense social pressure on women to be morally perfect and respectable.
If I flipped the story to give advice from a father to a son, the whole focus would likely change. Instead of learning how to keep a house or protect one’s reputation, the father’s advice might focus more on strength, independence, and ambition. He might tell his son how to earn respect, handle challenging situations, and stand his ground. The pressure to succeed, protect himself, and stay strong would probably take center stage, rather than worrying about being judged for his behavior like the mother’s worries in Girl. The advice would likely include how to work hard, deal with conflict, and assert power in the world.
These differences show how society holds different expectations for men and women. Women. As seen in Girl, the expectations are expected to maintain a perfect image within the home and in public, focusing on being proper, modest, and hard-working in domestic tasks. Conversely, men are often pushed to be leaders, toughen up, and achieve success in the wider world. It’s an exciting contrast that shows how gender roles shape the way boys and girls are raised.
Of course, there could be some similarities in both versions. Both the mother and the father might feel the need to prepare their child for a harsh world—whether it’s teaching a daughter to avoid judgment or a son to avoid failure. Both versions would probably still reflect the pressure to conform to society’s standards, but the focus would differ for each.
In conclusion, the advice for a girl versus a boy highlights how society or culture expects different things from men and women. Women often face stricter rules, restrictions, and standards, while men are usually pushed toward independence and success. This difference shows how deeply rooted gender roles shape people’s lives.
I like how you thoroughly explain your points and strongly agree with the aspect that females have more stricter guidelines than men do in this society!