“How Noname Helped Me Make Sense of My Relationship With My Mother” explains the somewhat strained relationship between a jewish mother and her gay daughter. The author describes her mother as harsh. Another way to describe her mother is tempered, blunt, and just says things without really thinking about how it can hurt others. Since the daughter revealed that she is gay to her mother there seemed to have been tension, and her mother wasnt able to understand how she could survive being that way. The mother told her she “wishes [she] could just be a good Jewish girl and marry a good Jewish man.” when anyone asks a person to change who they are, it can put a strain on any relationship. These were just some of the struggles that the author had to tolerate. Music was used to help the author understand her mother a little more. The author said one of the heaviest things she realized was that “There is no way to resolve this tension, there is only acceptance.”

From my personal opinion because I do have a good relationship with my parent, it does hurt knowing that deep down if one day i decided to not be straight anymore that “unconditional love” would flip. So even though i know i am a heterosexual it still puts a strain on the relationship that my parent doesn’t even know is there. It’s pretty much all in my head. Just the fact that it can happen is what i think about.

One of the artists that comes to mind is Eminem. The songs of his struggles and the struggles during the time which he had a daughter always made me tear up. It made me think about my childhood. Even though it wasn’t great emotionally, my mom did everything she thought was right at the time. And I have to make sure I say what she thought was right. Some of her decisions didn’t help… at all, but she thought they would and the fact that she thought it would help and she did it is what means a lot. My mother has become more open minded then she was but deep down she will always be the little girl from the village in Yemen and i don’t think she will ever get to the open mindess that i have and i can’t judge her for it. It was the way she was raised and it is hard to break out of the mindset a person is raised with. Another artist is NF. He is actually quite similar to Eminem. His words, his sounds, and I’m sure Eminem was an inspiration for him. One of his songs state “i’ve always tried to control things, In the end that’s what controls me” and that is something i like to think about a lot. You can’t change everyone’s point of view. And I can’t let other peoples need to control impact my life choices that make me happy. Like Noname and the author said you just have to accept it and move on.