The article by Chessman explores how through the music she was able to dissect and further dive into the complications of the relationship she has with her mother. She was able to do so using the music from an artist named Noname. She says that it’s impossible to write about her mother because she simply cannot really explain the relationship that they have, which I agree with immensely. Although I have some love and care for my mother, there is this coldness that exists within our relationship. She is a warm woman but as a mother, she had to assume many responsibilities because she had to make up for the occasional absence of my father. Even though that is the case, she still places a heavy emphasis or importance on me having a relationship or a marriage with a man to elevate my life. Even Though she has proven otherwise with how she has raised me. In the song, hold me up by Noname she sings about how the father is there financially but the mother regardless of anything is there. She says that although her dad pays the bills her mother provides her with a relationship that money can never buy. In a lot of cultures, mothers really want their daughters to marry because they then will have someone to financially take care of them so that they don’t have to assume much responsibility on that end. However, what’s underlooked is the warmth, relationship, and care that a mother provides. The mother often has to do a lot more work than the father at times because they end up overcompensating. They think that just because they don’t have a job or they’re not making money, that they have to do other things. Mothers are always there and that is a job that is severely underestimated.  Further in the article, Chessman also said that in her case just because the mother is always there doesn’t mean that emotionally they are always available. She said that her mother often struggles to relate to her and downplays her sexuality in an effort to relate to her and to give her advice. That mindset not to disregard the author’s feelings but is often stemming from generational trauma, traditions, and ideas that they have had to Endure. So because they’ve had to do that, they think that oftentimes this is a phase for their children and that your lifestyle will soon settle and resolve itself. Although that mindset is not right to the child, it’s also not right to not acknowledge the world and the difference in privilege socially between the two generations. In realizing that what you would find is that the mother in her mind is trying to shelter and protect their children from the society and reality that they’ve had to experience growing up.