Jane met Mr. Rochester, after long time of miserable life. Rochester wanted to marry Jane without telling her his mad wife’s story. When they prepare things for marriage, Rochester says he will put the diamond chain “round Jane neck, and circlet on her forehead, clasped the bracelet s on these fine wrists and load her finger s with rings”. He used visible jewelry to limit Jane invisibly. Jane felt that she is oppressed. She felt Rochester’s smile has “such a sultan might, bestow on a slave his gold and gems had enriched ”, and she, herself, just like the east allusion, was without freedom. Jane knows, facing Rochester, she is no longer as independent as before. Jane’s heart is always in a state of intense struggle. She willingly devotes herself to Rochester, but she still tries to grasp her own soul.
When the secret is discovered, Rochester hopes that Jane can go with her in the name of love. Jane is nearly shaken. After all, she keeps her individual soul. In Jane’s life, she never stops struggling against miserable life and misfortune. She hasn’t a noble position, an illustrious background, wealth or a beautiful appearance. The only proud thing for her is her self-respect, which is supported by her self-confidence and her staunch independence. She never expects that Rochester can love her because she thinks there is a big gap between them forever. When they fall in love, Jane has to keep her self-respect and independence in case of losing her self. What she can give to Rochester is only her love, her infatuation, her spiritual support and nothing else. However, what Rochester gives her is more than hers. He can also improve Jane Eyre’s social status and increase her wealth. This unequal exchange makes Jane Eyre uneasy. The situation makes her feel that they are not quite equal and her independence is also threatened. When Jane were aware that Rochester had a wife, and Rochester was trying to make her stay, she said, “I DO love you, more than ever: but I must not show or indulge the feeling: and this is the last time I must express it.” “No, sir, finish it now; I pity you—I do earnestly pity you.”” “Mr. Rochester, I no more assign this fate to you than I grasp at it for myself. We were born to strive and endure—you as well as I: do so. You will forget me before I forget you.” To maintain the equality of marriage, she refused to be Rochester’s lover, farewell to the rich life, a wandering life. Jane violated the traditional notions of women at the time, and emphasized equality between men and women. Jane didn’t keep silent, she expressed her feeling and protected her self-respect and value.