The discussion between Socrates and Phaedrus starts Phaedrus pointing the essentials of an article written by Lysias. Both characters are in agreement with Lysias that there are two kinds of lovers: lovers and non-lovers. They state that the relationship between non-lovers is better than a relationship with lovers because lovers expose the discussion while non-lovers don’t. The main interests for relationship by lovers are the benefit obtained in it. They measure and calculate both expenditure and income from a relationship and if the expenditure exceeds the benefit, they quit the relationship. On the other hand, non-lovers value the relationship more than the benefits involved in it. Despite the amount spend in a relationship, non-lovers will not regret being in a relationship.
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I think it’s the Phaedrus alone who supports the idea that a young man should choose a older man who’s non-lover rather than lover. Socrates holds an opposite perception and he suggests to choose man who is lover even though it might involve madness because he believes that’s where the truth and eternal beauty lies.
I disagree that the relationship between non-lovers is better than lovers. With lovers yes discussions are exposed, but depending on how well the relationship is between both individuals can make them stronger. Meaning can reinforce trust, then creates a stronger bond. Non-lovers live a facade more towards lust rather than love, which doesn’t gain much trust because their is no need. No one lives young forever, and nobody would want to grow old alone. But modern society is a game of charades now.