Socrates and Phaedrus describe various kinds of lovers’ behaviors by they both agreed with Lysias that there are two kinds of lovers: non-lover and lover. Lysias makes an irrefutable argument in praising the non-lover for remaining more rational than the lover. The lover will regret giving favors after his desire subsides, while the non-lover will view favors like business transactions. The non-lover will be able to indulge in pleasures without having to worry about their negative impact on his business or personal life. Lovers are jealous and jealousy often leads to enmity; relations with a non-lover, who has attracted a boy with his personal merits, will always lead to friendship. Lovers are usually first attracted to a boy’s body rather than his character, so they may not want to remain friends afterwards. They believes the relationship between non-lovers is better than a relationship with lovers.
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Phaedrus believed that Lysias’ speech was excellent and that it made sense since a non-lover would not be as unhealthy and negative as a lover would be. I agree with you that both Socrates and Phaedrus shared the belief that between a non-lover is more preferable than a lover. However, instead of continuing on with Lysias’ claims, Socrates started his own speech by stating the negative influences of a lover. Socrates claimed that a lover is often driven by an outrageous desire and his jealousy will own stray the boy away from positive influences. Like you stated above, Socrates shared that a lover’s love would eventually fade and they may not even want to remain friends later on.