I cannot count how many times IâÂÂve been asked: DonâÂÂt you wish you had siblings?
Being an only child, like anything else, has its pros and its cons. Growing up, I was asked whether I wanted siblings or not. As a grouchy two-year old of course I answered no. Sometimes I think what would life be like being the eldest and not the only child. IâÂÂve been told that only children and eldest children have a lot of common traits. The biggest similarity I have noticed is the need to be in control.
The stereotypical only child is a lonely, spoiled brat that gets everything he or she wants. I, however, completely disagree with this stereotype. As an only child I can say that when I am alone, most of the time it is because I would rather be alone. I have spent a lot of time with just my parents therefore, I got use to. Some only children, however, desire siblings and the deep connection to another person. Having cousins that I grew up with replaced the need for siblings.
Spoiled, is an adjective that does not only describe an only child. Essentially, anyone can be spoiled. A youngest can be spoiled; a woman with a rich husband can be spoiled.
Many of the only children I know are given extra attention rather than being spoiled. Attention can be good or bad. Attention, when it is only one childâÂÂs report card coming home can put a lot of pressure on the child. Attention when it is their birthday and there are no other kids to steal the shine is good.
However, the way an only child is treated has a lot to do with their parenting. I believe that a child is a reflection of his or her parents. Some parents chose to give their child attention or spoil them. While others have no time for their kids because they are wrapped up in their own lives. This has nothing to do with whether they have one child or not.
Environment also has a profound impact on a childâÂÂs development. Growing up I was in an environment with many people around me. Therefore, I never felt the need to have an extra child around me all the time.