The connection between conflict and individuality

Freud’s “Family Romances” mainly illustrates how the conflicts faced in the liberation of an individual affect the formation of adult’s individuality (or personality, identity) and behavior shaped. The liberation means to become an individual by escaping over the course of childhood, from the absolute power and love of parents. Freud describes the liberation is a “necessary” and “most painful” progress. Some children have failed in this task then become a class of neurotics. Freud points out that the family romance is a fantasy production as a part of a movement of neurotic’s estrangement from his parents in order to accomplish the liberation. Freud defines two stages of the family romance, one before the onset of puberty and a later one with sexual overtones. At the early stage, conflicts begin to come up when a child’s “intellectual growth increases”, because a child comes to doubt his parents’ “incomparable and unique quality” which he believes all the time, and discover his parents are not as perfect as he considers. The child then often creates fictional stories about their origins, such as being adopted, and imagines his  “real” parents were much better, kinder, and more exalted than the imperfect people who were actually raising them. This entirely fabricated fictional stories(daydreams)made by children to comfort themselves are called “family romance”. Freud further notes that most family romances develop when a child’s “affection is not being fully reciprocated” as a means of “fulfilment of wishes and correction of actual life”. At the later stage, being aware of sexual relations between father and mother, the child then imagines as a bastard from her mother’s illicit sexual relationship with a noble father. In conclusion, the conflicts between the child’s wish and reality make the child a neurotic, and develop the child’s fictional activity (making family romances) as a result.