“Family Romances” by Sigmund Freud talks about family relationship analyzed psychologically. When I was a child my mother and father were my role models. Since my father was away and my mother raised me I dreamed of having the same occupation as my mother. I thought that nobody is a better than her and that she is the most successful person at that time. My father was away, so in my mind I found an explanation. He was a hero in my mind, a secret agent, who had to travel frequently. As I was growing up I realized that other parents are treating their kids better, and I become rebellion. I agree with Freud conclusions because I personally experienced it. It is interesting to notice that mother-son and father-daughter relationship is more affectionate than mother-daughter and father-son. Freud claims that sexual tension has something to do with this. Also children who have siblings can fell neglected by their parents and thus their response to parent’s hostile behavior can be along those lines. Than he talks about “neurotic family romance” that refers to entanglement of child parents. It usually starts before puberty and continues through it. In that period child wants to depart from his parents that he has low opinion about and replace them with other parents of higher social class. A second stage of family romances in child recognizing that mother is always certain and father can come and go. I was undermining father in one point as well, because I felt that mother is more caring and giving. After the puberty period ended I realized that my parents try to raise me the best way they knew.
Marija Krasojevic