Displacement After High School

My two best friends and I spent a lot of time together during our last year of high school. We didn’t have a lot of classes together, but we still managed to stay close and spend time together almost everyday after school. I enjoyed spending time with them because there was always laughter and we never ran out of things to do and talk about. However, it all started to change when we started college. Since they both go to the same college, I was the one who was separated from them. In the beginning we still communicated in our group chat just like the way we always did. It made me feel better because I still felt like I belonged and that they haven’t forgotten about me. Due to the time differences in our schedules, I barely spent time with them because one of us is always busy with something. However, they spent a lot of time with each other since they had similar schedules and were in the same college with no one else that they knew. Even though we still continued communicating in our group chat, they often talked about stuff they could relate to and about the people they met in their classes. Although they didn’t mean to make me feel left out, I felt displaced because I couldn’t contribute to the conversation or relate to any of it. When we hung out during break, I still felt displaced because they often left me out of the conversation and talked about things that were happening in their college. They even had inside jokes that they would later explain to me. Even though I felt displaced, there are still moments where I felt like I belonged, especially when we bring up high school memories and caught up with each other’s lives.

One thought on “Displacement After High School

  1. Hey Polly, I know exactly how this feels because it happened to me as well. I went to a high school that was predominently Caucasian and when I made my first two white friends I thought things would go smoothly. It turns out I was displaced a lot throughout my relationship with them. Because I am Latina, they never really understood my jokes about the culture or the way the Latin culture works in general, so they were never able to make a connection. As a result, they spoke to each other more often, understanding each other’s jokes more frequently and talking about their own lifestyle. Like you mentioned, they never meant to do it on purpose, we just couldn’t relate to each other. Eventually, we found a middle ground where we could all enjoy ourselves and understand each other a little better.

Comments are closed.