In Frued’s family romance the writer discusses child development and the impacts of family towards the nature of an individual and his/her mindset. In my opinion, I feel as if the general idea of the influence of a mother and father on a child does apply pressure upon the thoughts and actions that the child will later follow upon. However, when Frued digs deeper into his analysis i find no relation to his words, i cannot help but disagree upon his ideas toward the family structure and effect. I do agree with the idea that children often deem to attempt to be reflections of their parents, and pursue on becoming images of what their parents were perceived as in their adult years due to the experiences they lived through as children. However, I can’t relate to the idea that I resented my parents when I was younger, or wished for a different means of upbringing. Frued’s ideas are not those that he can force upon an entire population, however, there are a chosen amount of people that may agree with his mindset and have experienced the same feelings of resent and urge for change.

Another idea of Frued’s that I don’t quit relate to is when he states “a child with siblings feels regrets at having to share parental love” (Freud 237). I have two siblings and I had never felt the need to be held at a level of  more importance than them. In a family with strict parents i’ve found myself wanting the opposite at times. In my culture females are more heavily protected and parents have stricter rules and regulations toward the women rather than the men. As a child I wasn’t allowed to go outdoors and explore as much as my brother or male cousins were, which led me to wish that my parents would care about what I do less than what my brother does. However, I never resented the parents I have as Frued implies. I am able to understand where Frued is coming from and why he believes in his theories but i am not able to relate them to my own childhood.

-Jyoti Bali