For our group topic we chose Health and Care. As we grow closer to social media, social media breaks our mental health and our self-awareness. We live in a time were the number of likes, the number of followers, the number of retweets, the number on the scale, the letter on your chest, the number of plates, and the number in the bank, define who you are and either make or break you. For this topic, I have chosen to talk about the show “13 Reasons Why” and the poem “Social Media is a Lie.” In “13 Reasons Why,” we see the life of Hannah Baker through the tapes she left after she had killed herself. In every tape we learn something new about her life and what had led her to make the decision of taking her own life. We see how a picture that was taken was sent around and shammed her as a slut. Her first boyfriend in her brand-new school had taken her out on a cute date in the park which ended in a terribly provocative photo which he decided to show to his friends. As we end up seeing due to mass texting the picture was sent around the school shamming her as the school whore. We see how her personal poem gets spread around because I boy thought it was cool. She had finally opened up to a group of people who understood her and a boy who seemed to get her. But we see how she couldn’t trust him either because he stole her poem and published it in his newspaper which shammed her as the freaky slut of the school. We see how a boy raped three girls and doesn’t get in trouble because he plays two sports ad his parents are filthy rich. This boy was the richest of the richest and had held a pool party, and because he had past relations with Hannah he didn’t think much of why she had come. She was in the hot tub with him with no other intentions than relaxing, but he had thought other wise. He raped her just like he did three other girls and everyone praised him for it because he was the man of party’s drugs and sex. We see how reputation matters more than the truth and ruins the lives on two mourning parents. Hannah was in love and so was her amazing boyfriend but when it came to the time of telling the world he was too scared to tell everyone he was dating the school slut and crazy girl who cannot take this society’s compliments of her ass. We allow others people’s opinions control our lives, and we come to a point where we cannot function without someone else’s opinion. We created a life were someone takes their life because the pressure, and the rumors, and the gossip, and the social standards are just impossible to bear with. In this show we see how people are taking over our lives, and it ruins us. It ruins our relationships with people, our lives every single day, and ruins our relationship with our selves. In the poem “Social Media is a Lie,” thelemonpolice talks about the reality of social media. This person talks about how when we see one thing on social media, we do not know what is actually happening. How people spend their time sitting on social media instead of talking to the people around you. We go on dates and dinners with our friends but we canot recall one sentence the person sitting in front of you said. We do though remember what miss perfect life posted about her new car and bag. How people post the gifts they receive but don’t show how hurt they feel and how much they wished they can tell the world. We get this and that and make the world believe that we love our lives but we cannot come to the fact that we are living in misery because even our friends don’t know why cry ourselves to sleep at night. How we are forcing ourselves to smile for the camera but are actually dying inside. How we have to take a million pictures to find the right one to get the greatest number of likes. Why is it ok that a beautiful girl must turn herself inside out and take four hundred pictures before she can post the best one that fits this society’s rules and regulations. How we need our friend’s approval to make us feel worthy but those friends are just using you for something in the long run. Weve been friends with the same people for ages and at one point we realize that when you cannot give they could care less about you. We never will say something because you believe without them you are nothing, but they are not worth your tears or the stress you deal with when you cannot please them. How we post that family photo or wedding photo but do not tell the world how miserable these people are. We live between fights, and cheating, and abuse, but cannot get ourselves to come forward and tell the truth and get help because the truth is bland and pointless. We are allowing this thing called social media, this thing called social standards, this thing called popularity, ruin our lives. It takes over and makes us hate ourselves. We aren’t pretty enough, don’t have enough money, don’t have enough likes, don’t have enough gains, don’t have enough shoes or bags or clothes. We don’t look like that model or the fitness guy you love, we are humans each perfect and each different. Will it take a million abused women, a million boys on steroids, a million suicides, or an infinite number of unhappy people, before we realize that social media and these crazy standards are slowly killing us. We are at the age where what is on Instagram matters more then who we really are. What other people think of you defines who you are and how you act. We are the problem and we cannot even see it.