• Write a conversation between you(ME) and your Inner Guide(IG) about a problem you are facing in college. Label each of your IG’s responses with the listening skill it uses: silence, expansion, clarification, reflection (remember to reflect feelings as well as thoughts). Let your IG demonstrate the skills of active listening without giving advice.

Me: I’ve realized what a difficult time I have keeping track of all of my assignments.

IG: Would you like to say more?(Expansion)

ME: Well, I have a total of five classes,including freshman seminar. I find it hard to balance all the work that I have for all my classes. I find myself forgetting about certain assignments which is why I tend to get them done at the last minute. I have a planner where I all my assignments are written but I don’t really check my planner regularly.

IG: What do you mean by “regularly”?(Clarification)

Me: I don’t check my planner at all. When I come home from school, I do assignments that is usually due the next day that I can remember. I don’t do assignments the day that they are given to me.

IG:  Oh…(Silence)

Me: I’ve never truly been a procrastinator. I only ever started to leave my assignments for the last minute was my junior year in high school. Ever since then, I’ve been leaving things for the last minute. In high school it’s acceptable since the workload is not as heavy as it is in college. But it’s hard to balance college, work and my personal life, all while being criticized

IG: You seem frustrated that no one is praising you for being able to balance all three or at least maintain all three aspects of your life.

Me:  Yeah, it’s hard enough that I have teachers with their assignments attacking me and with me beating myself up over it, now I have to deal with what others have to say when they don;t know how difficult it is and that I’m trying my best in everything.

IG: How are you trying your best?(Clarification)

Me: Well, now I’m attempting to at least start the assignments when I am given them. As well as doing some in between some of my breaks

• Write what you learned or relearned about active listening during this conversation with your Inner Guide.

What I learned about active listening is that I can often find the answers to my problems and that I can motivate myself to work even harder when I sit down and have a conversation with my Inner Guide. Through this conversation I was able to see that I am not trying as hard as I can try, that I am not giving it my all. I was able to identify a problem and see all of the little problems that come from the main problem. With this I will be able to accomplish what needs to be accomplished. I need to learn to be more organized and productive with my free time. Learn to mange my time properly and pace myself so that I have time to do my school work and concentrate on only that. 

1. An outer obstacle that stands between me and my success in college is the lack of time I have to study due to being busy.
2. Someone who could help me overcome this outer obstacle is a counselor.
3. How this person could help me is by showing me ways that I can open up my schedule and implement just enough studying time.
4. An inner obstacle that stands between me and my success in college is doubting myself.
5. Someone besides me who could help me overcome this inner obstacle is a friend that may have gone through the same condition.
6. How this person could help me is by encouraging me to go with my gut feeling and try to at least participate once in every class that I have these doubts in.
7. The most challenging course I’m taking in college this semester is Pre-Calculus.
8. This course is challenging for me because it is hard to just do the same one-by-one step process for questions that are in the same section but are set up differently.
9. Someone besides me who could help me overcome this challenge is a math tutor.
10. How this person could help me is by going over multiple examples from each section until I can sort of master it.

In order to create a stronger support system for myself in college I could,

1. Not doubt myself because I could be right
2. Ask for help in any way possible because it just might better me

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1. Time for study
2. My friends
3. By encouraging me to do my work bit by bit before the due date
4. Procrastination
5. My friends/peers
6. This person can help me by us studying together or making time to study together
7. The most challenging course I’m taking this semester was Math
8. This course was challenging for me because of the tests an how they were worded
9. I left the class
10. My councilor helped me by removing me from the class to focus on other classes.

Two choices that I’ve made to make a stronger support system is keeping the company I see myself excelling with and staying at a timely schedule.

1. 15 actions
   1. browse the internet
   2. work on a project
   3. be on social media
   4. study with friends
   5. watch television
   6. went to the gym
   7. went go-carting
   8. work
   9. read a book
   10. wrote a paper
   11. finished up a midterm
   12. cook
   13. create a website
   14. posted on blackboard
   15. review my grades

QUADRANT I

•  Finished up midterm paper (1hr)
• Create a website (4 hrs)
• Work on a project (2 hrs)

QUADRANT II

• Study with friends (3 hrs)
• Posted on blackboard (30mins)
• Wrote a paper (2 hrs)

QUADRANT III

• Browse the internet (1 hr)
• Went to the gym (2 hrs)
• Review my grades (1hr)
• work (5 hrs)
• Read a book (3 hrs)

QUADRANT IV

• Watch TV (3 hrs)
• Went go carting (2 hrs)
• Be on social media (5 hrs)
• Cook (1 hr)

4.  I realized I spend the most time in Quadrant 3: Not Important,  But Urgent. I don’t spend that much in the first and second Quadrant because I do a lot of procrastination and sometimes lose motivation. I definitely plan to change that. I will do this by putting in more effort and time to complete all tasks on time.

1. An outer obstacle that stands between me and my success in college is alot of  homework that is due in a small amount of time.
2. People besides me who could help me overcome this outer obstacle are counselor,  and the instructors.
3. How these people could help me is by giving me extra time and helping me throughout the problems that I have questions on, etc.
4. An inner obstacle that stands between me and my success in college is stressing out and anxious about everything regarding school.
5. People besides me who could help me overcome this inner obstacle is friends, counselor, and family members.
6. How this person could help me is by giving me advices, options that will guide me through my issues, getting a different perspective on what should I do on my situation.
7. The most challenging course I’m taking in college this semester is quite a few, but I would have to say my math then English class.
8. This course is challenging for me because of the amount of work and some of the difficult topics we learn in that class and in english class is the quality work I give in papers.
9. Someone besides me who could help me overcome this challenge is the instructors.
10. How this person could help me is by motivating me and telling me the specific critiques on my work since they see how I behave in class and see my personality.

B.  Two choices that I  could make a create a stronger support system for myself in college are procrastination, and not reviewing my work.  Personally I believe I have to be the one to fix my procrastination problem and simultaneously put the time I need to review my work. Besides myself, I guess instructors and friends can help me with that.  Some choices that I could make to overcome these obstacles and challenges to my success are putting more time into my work, not waiting for the last minute. Mainly just making time. Time is a big key to my issues.

1. I will be the first one in my family to graduate college.
2. Hard-working, loving, organized, intelligent, humble, relaxed, focused, determined, outspoken, independent
3. Hard-working, independent and outspoken
4. Format A: I am a hard-working, determined and independent woman.

Format B: I am a hard-working, determined and independent woman, overcoming obstacles to any extent in order to reach my dreams.

Format C: I am a hard-working, determined and independent woman, and I will make my mother proud.

5. I am a hard-working, determined and independent woman, overcoming obstacles to any extent in order to reach my dreams.
6. The first quality from my affirmation is hard-working. A specific experience in my life when I demonstrated that quality was during my senior year of high school. I always stayed focused on my classwork, stayed after class to finish up my essays instead of go home, be of assistance to my teachers and regulate the after-school activities. It was all about school the majority of my time.

The second quality from my affirmation is determined. A specific experience in my life when I demonstrated that quality was during my senior year of high school. In my school we had the Levie Awards, which was like talent show and I was the manager and host. Even though a lot of people had doubts that it would not be good and wouldn’t finish, I pushed my self during lunch, breaks and after school to make this unforgettable.

The third quality from my affirmation is independent. A specific experience in my life when I demonstrated that quality was during my senior year of high school. Throughout high school I never relied on anyone to help me succeed and achieve my diploma but myself. Everything I did, I did it by myself with little to no help. If anything, I was the one my friends looked for when they needed help with their work.

1. I’m searching
2. Organized, Daring, Intelligent, Friendly.
3. Organized, Daring, Intelligent.
4. Format A: I am a organized, daring and intelligent woman.
Format B: I am a organized, daring, and intelligent woman searching for my dreams.
Format C: I am a organized, daring and intelligent woman and I am infatuated with learning.
5. Format C

Miguelina Ortega

Ilse Junod

FRO 2000S

17 November 2015

Journal Entry #12

• Write a one-sentence statement of one of your most motivating goals or dreams in your role as a student.

A goal/dream that I have is to reach  3.0 GPA and maintain it.

• Write a list of personal qualities that would help you achieve this educational goal or dream.

• Organized
• Intelligent
• Hard-working
• Persistent
• Confident
• Articulate

• Circle the three qualities on your list that seem the most essential for you to achieve your goal or dream as a student.

• Confident
• Hard-working
• Organized

• Write three versions of your personal affirmation.

Format A: I am a confident, hard-working, organized woman.

Format B: I am a confident, hard-working, organized woman, attending Baruch College.

Format C: I am a confident, hard-working, organized woman, and I will achieve my goal.

• Circle or highlight the sentence from Step 4 that you like best.

Format B: I am a confident, hard-working, organized woman, attending Baruch College.

• Write three paragraphs- one for each of the three qualities in your affirmation.

The first quality from my affirmation is confidence. A specific experience in my life when I demonstrated that quality was in my senior year in high school when I was trying out for the Spirit Squad with two of my friends. We were supposed to memorizes three cheer and perform them in front of the coach. Both of my friends were nervous and had doubts of not being able to make it in the team. I was confident that I would get all three cheers done correctly and get a spot on the team. I took the lead in the tryouts and was able to make it on the team.

The second quality from my affirmations is hard-working. A specific experience in my life when I demonstrated that quality was when I volunteered for an event called Toys for Tots. It was a hectic event with many children to attend to and a small amount of volunteers. I had to wrap gifts, label them by age and gender range, seat the children, take children to the bathroom and help them, as well as prepare their food for them. I did not get to rest or take a break until I made sure that all needs of the children were met. I’ve never worked so hard until that day.

The last quality from my affirmation is organized. A specific experience in my life when I demonstrated that quality was when I was couponing for my mother. I had to cut out all of the coupons and place them in our coupon book. I created a system where I cut all the pages with the same coupon together to save time. When placing the coupons in the coupon book, I created another system where all the coupons had a page or two to their specific type. For example, on one page I made sure that all of the coupons that had to do with cleaning products were in it and so on.

1. I’m goal as a student is to obtain a 3.0 average.
2. Personal qualities that would help me achieve this goal are:
• Persistent
• Friendly
• Relaxed
• Confident
3. Three qualities that are most essential are
• Persistency
• Friendly
• Confident
4. I am a persistent, friendly, confident woman
4b. I am a persistent, friendly, confident woman, working hard
4c. I am a persistent, friendly, confident woman, and I will succeed.
5. I am a persistent, friendly, confident woman, and I will succeed.
6. I am persistent because I was apart of a WES group in HS and I stayed til the very end even through turbulent times. I am friendly because I realize I am able to socialize with people older, younger or even people who are the same age as me.
I am confident because I am able to accept the good AND the bad and make the best of it.

1.My most motivating goal as a student is to receive at least a 3.0 GPA or higher, and to pass my math classes.

2.Personal qualities that would help me achieve this educational goal or dream is my motivation, hard working, the fact that I have a lot of tenacity and inquisitive, which I think plays a big role in college.

3.Circle the three qualities on your list that seem the most essential for you to achieve your goal or dream as a student (from Step1).

(hard working, motivation, inquisitive )

4.Write three versions of your personal affirmation.

A) I am a motivated, inquisitive, and a  hard-working woman.

B)I am a motivated, hard-working woman,  and my inquisitiveness has helped me create my dreams.

C)I am a motivated, inquisitive, a  hard-working woman and for that I will succeed.

5.Circle or highlight the sentence from Step 4 that you like best.

(I am a motivated, inquisitive, a hard-working woman and for that I will succeed .

6.Write three paragraphs- one for each of the three qualities in your affirmation.

A)Motivated: I consider myself to be a motivated person for many reasons. But, I think it all comes from how I view my goals. My long term goal is now to work for the U.N, which is why I’m motivated about all my short terms goals. The fact that I want to work in the U.N has make me a more motivated person, because I know that everything I do now counts towards achieving that goal. Therefore, I put a lot of time and motivation into what I’m doing now because it all will lead me into achieving what I want.

B)Inquisitive: I also consider myself to be a very inquisitive person. I tend to be curious about everything, which often makes me a very questionable person. I’m always asking questions about everything that I don’t know, or that I already know but would like to expand my knowledge on.

C)Hard-working: Finally, I consider myself to also be hardworking person. After all, if I was not to be a hardworking person, I wouldn’t be coming to college at all. I’m often trying my best to understand the materials given to be in my classes, and I’m always trying my best to keep up with everything, including the assignments. I’m also responsable for other things outside of school, and I try to manage them in a way that won’t affect my education; which I think makes me a hardworking person since I’m trying to work through everything without letting one thing affect the other.