http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=38XOStSIgII&feature=related
In this week, we learned the chapter 7 which talked about divorce. Divorve becomes more common and acceptable in today’s society and rate of divorce still increase. From the book, it states that divorce rate be associated with socioeconomic development. such as developing countries has lower divorce rate than developed countires. American has the highest rate of divorce in the world, but China and Indina have lower rate. It seems that countries where people have religious and relate their marriage to the God, the rate of divorce will be less. Another reason that women role in the developing countries are very family oriented, they will stay with their marriage no matter what happen. they usually be a housewife which is take care of their families. But women in developed countries has more right to choose their life and they are allow to leave their marriage if they are no satisafied.
From the video, Dr. Drew’s Lifechanger/Master Matchmaker Steve Ward has his own take on why a lot of couples are getting divorced today. This Lifechanger thinks it’s easy to walk away from marriage these days and the social stigma attached to divorce has disappeared. In fact, Steve says that people almost feel cool to get deivorced and they had divorce parties. Steve is disgusted by divorce parties, and believes ending a marriage means failure no matter how you slice it.
Nowadays, it is commonly believed that 50 percent of marriages will end in divorce, but on the 50, 60 and 70 century, divorce was relatively uncommon and difficult to get. because of religious, economic and social role, etc. As result, a lot of reasons will cause divorce, but if couples can have an understanding of themselves, they should learn how to handle things by themselves and try to understand the relationship of marriage, I believe the rate of divorce will decrease.
Divorce has become extremely common in America and much more acceptable, that it’s reached the level where it’s part of our culture. There isn’t a stigma attached to divorce any longer. In fact, when I was younger, in a way, I felt like I was the odd one out in my group of friends because I was the only person with parents who were still together. I witnessed how the divorce affected the children involved. My best friends’ parents are divorced, and her father had custody. Her father would continuously tell her how horrible her mother was and that he didn’t want his daughter to see her. A lot of parents bring out their hatred or negative opinions and try to influence their children’s ideas of their other parent. This situations really messed with my friends’ ideas of her mother, and didn’t realize her dad’s motives until she was in her late teens. In a divorced family, the children end up suffering a lot.
There are many reasons for divorce, but I think a lot of people realize that divorce is available so easily, that many problems aren’t worth fighting for. Also, a handful of relationships end because men are uncomfortable if the wife makes more money. The stereotype of the man making more is still present, and the media needs to portray more of women success stories in hopes to help stop the stereotype. I find it a little ridiculous, that a man would file for a divorce from the woman he loves based on the fact that she makes more money. I don’t think the divorce rate will decrease anytime soon because it has become second nature in our society.
Divorce rate surprisingly has fallen in US if you compare the stats of 2000, mainly less people are getting married now-a-days and try to continue their relationship in that way. However, it is still very high and close to 50%. Countries like US and Canada (which has a divorce rate of 70%), have a very high amount of divorce rate. Developed countries have higher rate of divorce than developing countries.
I think this rate of divorce is more prevalent in free societies. Most of the developed countries have developed their societies very well and they have given individuals a freedom. I am from Bangladesh and countries from that part (South Asia in general) have a very low rate in divorce. The reason for this is, cultures from that part perceive divorce in a very negative manner. I have known very few people in my country who got divorced in my country. I think this sort of perception put a lot of pressure on the married couple to not have divorce. Another factor about that part is, when people in those parts have kids, they care a lot about them. Parents in my country are extremely careful about their kids. They try to take care of them and influence them on everything, from their eating pattern to their studying.
In United States, people have that freedom of doing whatever they want.