Within the LGBT community, bisexuals are often perceived as gay individuals who haven’t fully accepted themselves. Many subscribe to the idea that one can only be sexually attracted to one of the two genders. But human sexuality is a complex subject matter.

Remy Jacquot, 28, is originally from Virginia and currently lives in a small town in Southern France. He holds an MA in chemistry and an MBA, but after years of corporate work, Jacquot decided to leave that “miserable life” behind to attend culinary school. Today, he teaches English in France and works as a pastry chef.

In our FaceTime interview, Jacquot told me that he identifies himself as a bisexual man who “can be sexually and romantically attracted to both men and women.”

Those who believe that bisexuality does not exist are the same ones who deny sexual versatility and insist that one must be either a top or a bottom. They assume that versatile gays are just bottoms who are too ashamed to admit their sexual role, he explained. “Just like many gay people are into both giving and receiving, there are other people who like both genders. Why is that so hard to understand?”

“When I was 15, I had this crazy friend who was very sexual and did a lot of inappropriate things to some of our friends and myself … I experienced this and it kind of ruined my whole image of sex and sexuality. It made me very self-conscious” he said. “It was from this point that I started thinking about other guys.”

But Jacquot did not act upon his new sexual desires until much later. Having a girlfriend, a Persian background and growing up in an extremely heteronormative world, the thought of being attracted to his same sex intimidated him.

“It wasn’t until I was 21, when I left my girlfriend, that I started exploring a bit more and trying everything,” he said. “I think I fully appreciated guys and girls equally at the age of 24.”

Today, Jacquot believes that, aside from the obvious anatomic and physical distinctions, there’s not a big difference between dating a man or a woman. “We are all human beings,” he said.

“The only change would be that I am more affectionate in public with girls than I am with guys,” he reflected. “I don’t know why this is, but I’m sure there’s a sociological explanation to it.”

In a patriarchal society, where men are expected to provide, Jacquot said that he has always shared equally with both men and women. “It doesn’t matter if it’s a been a guy or a girl, whenever I’ve dated someone, we’ve always treated each other equally,” he said, while drinking a sip of his late-night coffee.

Jacquot said that his level of attraction for either gender varies “every day.” Although he’s been more interested in girls in the past, nowadays are males the ones who are more sexually appealing to him.

“Like, sometimes I am more into guys and sometimes more into girls. I have my phases,” he said. “Recently, though, I have been into guys more because I’m still exploring.”

But overall, Jacquot insisted that his biggest turn-on is talented people who have a passion and “go for it.” “And for some reason, I’m also very much into people who are crazy,” he confessed.

He has a different set of traits that he looks for in men and women. “For guys, I like them tall, blond, green or blue-eyed, masculine, outgoing, creative and intelligent,” he said, while laughing at his demanding list. “And on the other hand, I like brunette girls who are tall, skinny and have nice eyes. He told me that, especially for girls, “no drama” is an absolute must.