In the short story “Two Sister,” Ama Ata Aidoo introduces two sisters with completely different views on relationships, marriage and sexual behavior. We first meet the younger sister, Mercy, who engages in contradictory thoughts and behaviors. For example, she states that she wants a husband of her own and children while at the same has thought about participating in a behavior that would label her a home-wrecker (996). She has been tempted to go after her boss who owns a car but is afraid that his wife would “tear her hair out” (995). She later starts seeing a man name Mensar-Arthur, a member of Parliament, with multiple wives and girlfriends. Mercy is trapped in a tough stage in her life where she wants the traditional fairytale of falling in love, marrying a good man and then having his children but is also attracted to men owning cars (symbol of wealth) and men with prestigious power and control. Aidoo sheds light on the false reality that women are expected to marry a good man, who is single and have money. This is not always the case. Aidoo also points out the difficulties women have in positioning themselves in society. Women, in this story, are expected to be in the search for a husband that could provide for her and take care of her but if he showers her with gifts as criticized by Connie (big sister), she is seen as weak, spoiled and easily controlled. I believe Mercy is constantly contradicting herself because the expectations of women is just as contradicting and confusing to understand. There is no clear guidance of what a woman should or should not do because regardless of the case, she will be criticized one way or another. If Mercy finds a husband that is the right age for her and have the right kind of money to please her, she will be subject to being his subordinate, under his control. If Mercy continues to date/have sex with these older, powerful men who have wives, girlfriends and grandchildren, she will be seen as just a foolish girl who is degrading herself for pleasure while she wastes her youth away. It seems as if Connie’s marriage seems to be the ideal marriage every women should aspire for but even that marriage has roughs like infidelity, trust issues and explosive arguments.
Although this was written in 1970, you can still see specs of sexist remarks that seem to not have changed for over centuries. There seems to be a double standard when Aidoo describes temperament between the sexes. On page 100, James (Connie’s cheating husband) “hates tears, for like so many men, he knows it is one of the most potent weapons in women’s bitchy and inexhaustible arsenal.” When describing James, Aidoo just states, “James is cruel. He is terrible and mean” (1002). Notice the shift in description which goes more in depth in calling a woman’s demeanor “bitchy” and “inexhaustible” than if you compare the description of a man who is, just simply put, mean.
There is also a double standard between the sexes when it comes to behaving morally correct in romantic relationships. Connie has been aware of James’ many affairs with other women but still remains with him. Once Mercy reveals that she is with a man with many wives and girlfriends, Connie rebukes her for “ruining herself prosperously” (1001). It seems like a woman’s livelihood is determined by her choice in men meanwhile these men are not punished by their inability to be monogamous. Mensaur- Arthur continues to shower his many lovers with gifts and James continues to come home very late at night to his wife and children. James says, “Every morning her friends who don’t earn any more than she (Mercy) does wear new dresses, shoes, wigs and what-have-you to work” (1002). He is implying that Mercy should not be ashamed of who she is with because she must compete with other woman and her peers in ‘who has the nicest things.’ There is a moral issue to Mercy’s situation. On the one hand, Mercy is fond of Mensaur-Arthur and his ability to buy her all that she desires. On the other hand, once word gets out about the affair, news will “spread and brand her” (1002). Because Mercy is not taking the traditional route towards romance, her actions would be criticized by both men and women and her so-called value would diminish. There is an obvious sexist side to morality or what society dictates as morals. Women often criticize other women for their rebellious behavior that do not fit the social norm. Rebellious behavior include, fornicating with a man who has wives and children, sleeping with a man as old as their father, and letting him buy her love and affection. In the end, Mercy continues to meet an older gentleman with wives and children due to Connie’s failure to intervene or justify why Mercy should hold herself up to respectable standards.