Ely Solodar

When I was in 8^th grade I was this chubby kid who just struck puberty, and like all the boys my age I had one thing on my mind, girls. In my school there was this girl Katie. She was popular, very cute, going out with a senior, and most importantly a year older, which basically meant I had no chance. But you always want what you cant have and I was no exception, I wanted her. I went through my 8^th grade crushing on her, and she had no clue I existed. The summer before high school I started working out, lost a lot of weight, and came into 9^th grade a new man. High school was a new start for me, I was excited, and I did not forget about Katie. Slowly I started talking with the upper class and Katie as well, this was already a big step for me. Eventually I did what none of my friends thought I could do. Get with an older girl.  It was a glorious time, my first girlfriend was older and popular, and this in turn made me more popular. Every girl in high school was thinking about me, and everyone wanted to be my friend. But I was trying so hard to keep my relationship that I started acting too nice to Katie, honestly I had no other clue on how to act in a relationship. After we broke up I started to analyze myself, Katie, and what went on during the time her and me went out. I figured girls don’t want nice they get that on a day to day basis and its unordinary, so I started to act like a jerk, and it worked. At the time I was never more surprised in my life.  This was my first relationship, and it helped me learn a lot about how people work and how to work with people that I could’ve never learned on my own. This was all what seems to be a long time ago, and my opinion on relationships has changed and matured drastically since then, but nonetheless I would never be where I am today without this experience.