When something disappointing happens, our first, most natural reaction is denial. We think, “No. That didn’t just happen. It can’t be. It must be some mistake.”
So in order to overcome this and every adversity you face, the first step we have to take is to face into it. We have to accept what just happened. For most people, this takes faith or trust in a higher plan.
The idea is to take a deep breath, and stay in the present. Repeat to yourself:
“I accept what just happened. I am right here, right now and nowhere else. I am not alone. I trust in a higher power and I trust there is a good reason for what just happened. I am not going to try to control the outcome. I am not going to worry about the future nor obsess with the past.”
So, the first step is simply staying in the present, saying “YES” to everything that happens. We are put in situations for good reason. Facing into Adversity means staying “in the now”, in the present tense. Don’t torture yourself with “what if’s?” Or “should’ve, could’ve, would’ve”. Remember that the more you resist facing the current reality, the more suffering you will experience. The goals would be to accept it with serenity, faith and dignity.
In this step you allow this misfortune to enter your life and say to yourself: “Okay. This happened. I’m not dead. I’m not defeated. This is a loss. This is a setback. That’s all. I will overcome this with faith, with forgiveness, with learning, with appreciation, with giving and then by taking focused action.”
There are so many companies who experienced adversity and overcame and their examples can teach us the power of all the six steps. Toyota had a major problem when the Lexus was first introduced – and overcame by facing into it and fixing the problem with dignity. Coca Cola, when they introduced “New Coke” is another good example. More on this later.