1) “You can be cured in fourteen days if you follow this prescription: Try to think everyday how you can please someone. The most important task imposed by religion has always been ‘Love thy neighbor…’. It is the individual who is not interested in his fellow man who has the greatest difficulties in life and provides the greatest injury to others.  It is from among such individuals that all human failures spring…”
– Dr.  Alfred Adler in his book “What Life Should Mean to You”

2) “About one third of my patients are suffering from no clinically definable neurosis, but from the senselessness and emptiness of their lives.”
– Carl Jung

3) “I don’t know what your destiny will be, but one thing I do know: The only ones among you who will be really happy are those who have sought and found out how to serve.”
– Albert Schweitzer

4) “When you are good to others, you are best to yourself.”
– Benjamin Franklin

5) “No discovery of modern psychology is, in my opinion, so important as its scientific proof of the necessity of self-sacrifice (or discipline) to self-realization and happiness.”
– Henry C. Link

6) “Dr. Hans Selye, the internationally celebrated physician and recipient of a Nobel Prize recommended a specific solution to people who are suffering, to people who are grieving, or in mourning.  He advised that they use their inner resources to step out beyond themselves and reach out to others.  Dr. Selye calls this the magnificent paradox: When people strengthen others, they, in effect, strengthen themselves.  When people help others, they help themselves.  Dr. Hans Selye suggests that people who are in pain attempt to lose themselves in the concern and love for others, and through this “loss”, they paradoxically “find” fulfillment and relief.”

-Jack Doueck, in his book “The Chesed Boomerang: How Acts of Kindness Enrich Our Lives”

7) “The noted psychiatrist, Dr. Karl Menninger, advised his grieving patients to make the effort to go beyond themselves and “put themselves out” to achieve, what he calls, “the vital balance.”  Emotional and psychological health and healing does not begin when we ask: “Why is this happening to me?” or “Why did my loved one have to die?”  It starts when we ask: “How can I change my focus from ‘me and my grief’ outward, to my family and friends.”
– Jack Doueck, in his book “The Chesed Boomerang: How Acts of Kindness Enrich Our Lives”

8) “Paradoxically, one of the healthiest responses to suffering and personal sorrow is to practice acts of kindness.  By putting oneself out and focusing on others, there is a kind of natural healing that occurs.  Focusing on oneself often creates feelings of bitterness, regret and depression.  On the other hand, the kindness that one does while in pain has a way of reversing itself as it provides psychological and emotional fulfillment for the giver.  When we are suffering, acts of kindness can enrich our lives and help us deal with our own pain.”
– Jack Doueck, in his book “The Chesed Boomerang: How Acts of Kindness Enrich Our Lives”

9) “We who lived in the concentration camps can remember the men who walked through the huts comforting others, giving away their last piece of bread. They may have been few in number, but they offer sufficient proof that everything can be taken away from a man but one thing: the last of human freedoms to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s way.
– Dr. Victor Frankl, in Man’s Search For Meaning

10) “Kindness not only can boomerang back– it is integrally a “receiving.”  The act of giving, itself, is an act of receiving, which far outweighs what you could possibly be giving.
Spend the day visiting kid in “Camp Simcha” (a camp for terminally ill children), and you are spending the day enriching and feeding your soul, nourishing your spirit.  You are satisfying the part of you that yearns and needs to give love — and to help others.”
– Jack Doueck, in his book “The Chesed Boomerang: How Acts of Kindness Enrich Our Lives”

11) “It is one of the most beautiful compensations of life that no man can sincerely try to help another without helping himself.”
– Ralph Waldo Emerson

12) “I often feel that the universe is a dynamic, flowing, moving stream of energy.  It seems to me that when you give of yourself, you create a temporary imbalance that must be corrected.  Could it be that, like the molecules of air rushing to fill a vacuum, the universe strives to replace the good you have given out?  Could it be that the flow will come back to you from a totally unexpected source?”
– Jack Doueck, in his book “The Chesed Boomerang: How Acts of Kindness Enrich Our Lives”

13) “This Law of Reciprocity is probably as natural as the law of gravity. Whenever you put another person first, the universe puts you first.  The more you give, the more you receive.  This seeming paradox is natural… Modern medical professionals are proving scientifically that the practice of kindness (such as volunteer work) is healthy.  It creates happiness.  It promotes a strong immune system.  It relieves us from stress and anxiety.  It can ease our pain.  Giving liberates us.  It calms us.  It gives our lives meaning.  As Robert Byrne once said, “the purpose of life is a life of purpose.”  Acts of altruism and loving-kindness are part and parcel of our purpose in life for they transform the world and make it a safer place to live.”
– Jack Doueck, in his book “The Chesed Boomerang: How Acts of Kindness Enrich Our Lives”

14) “Kindness infuses life with meaning.  It creates light where there is darkness. It brings hope where there is despair.  It warms and comforts where there is grieving. It nourishes the soul where there is emptiness. It provides human dignity where there is shame. It brings joy where there is sadness. It builds love where there is isolation. Acts of kindness sanctify life….  They are never wasted – they always make a difference. They most often bless the receiver – but they always benefit the giver. The natural boomerang effect of kindness is so powerful it can literally transform our lives.”
– Jack Doueck, in his book “The Chesed Boomerang: How Acts of Kindness Enrich Our Lives”

15) “The day of the “go-getter” has passed and has been supplanted by the “go-giver”.
– Napolean Hill.

16) “We make a living by what we get. We make a life by what we give.”
– Winston Churchill

17) “If you don’t stand for something – you will fall for anything.”
– Anonymous

18) “Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes can be endless.”
– Anonymous

19) “I am only one, but still I am one. I cannot do everything, but still I can do something. And because I cannot do everything I will not refuse to do the something that I can do.”
– Helen Keller

20) “You know, the ancient Egyptians had a beautiful belief about death.
When their souls got to the entrance to heaven, the guards asked two questions.
Their answers determined whether they were able to enter or not.
‘Have you found joy in your life?’
‘Has your life brought joy to others?’ ”
– From the movie “The Bucket List”

21) “The smallest act of kindness and every contribution to a good cause can make a world of difference.   When a tiny pebble is dropped into a pool of water, ripples spread out across the entire surface of the pond. We believe that, like the pebble, a good deed makes a ripple that spreads across the entire planet spreading happiness, gratitude and good will. Take a moment to imagine what it might be like if every person in your neighborhood were to do just one simple good deed — like picking up the paper for the elderly man who lives around the corner; or helping the young mother across the street with her many bags of groceries; or perhaps it’s simply a wave and a friendly smile for the garbage man. What a difference that would make!”
– Anonymous

22) “At the end of life we will not be judged by how many diplomas we have received, how much money we have made, how many great things we have done.  We will be judged by: ‘I was hungry and you gave me to eat, I was naked and you clothed me, I was homeless and you took me in.’”
– Anonymous

23) “So many people walk around with a meaningless life. They seem half-asleep, even when they’re busy doing things they think are important. This is because they’re chasing the wrong things. The way you get MEANING into your life is to devote yourself to loving others, devote yourself to your community around you, and devote yourself to creating something that gives you purpose and MEANING!”
– Morrie Schwartz

24) James harrison, born with a rare kind of blood donated 1000 times and saved more than 2 million lives (over 56 years).
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